Hello Friends! Today I’m kicking off a brand new series here on the blog.
The Wedding Planning Basics Series walks you through the five most crucial elements at the beginning of your wedding planning journey!
The heart of Heirloom is about creating an engagement, wedding celebration and LIFE that are right for you. This series is packed full of my philosophies, best tips and action steps on just how to do that. As an even better treat, each post in this series includes a totally free video from me walking you through each one of these tenets.
The FIRST Thing You Should Do to Start Your Planning
This is a wonderfully special time in your life, and one of my goals is to help you deeply enjoy your planning process and use this time to grow as an individual and strengthen your relationship. It’s also a very emotional time, and planning an event of this scale has a lot of tasks and to-do.
High Emotions + Long To-Do Lists = Overwhelm very quickly.
If that’s where you are right now, I feel you, and I’m here to help. The #1 thing you should do is have a heartfelt conversation with your partner about what is most important for you on your wedding day and WHY.
It seems small and not very important when there are so many other things you need to check off your task list. But, this is important and sets the foundation for your planning.
Here at Heirloom, these are called your Wedding Values.
What exactly is a Wedding Value?
A Wedding Value is your priority for your wedding day. It’s what’s most important to you, that needs to be intentionally planned for. It’s what you most want to look back on and remember about your day.
Why do we need these priorities for our wedding?
Wedding Values create a clear set of expectations. They help you communicate with your family, friends and vendors more easily. Furthermore, the WHY behind your values helps your family and loved ones understand and appreciate the choices you make for your wedding.
My Best Tips for How To Decide What’s Important For your Wedding:
- Look Backward: Take clues from your background and family upbringing as well as how the two of you have spent your free time (think weekends and vacations) together.
- Look Forward: Look at your home, or the inspiration for the home the two of you would like to create together. Ask yourselves how you want to feel at the end of this process.
- Edit and Compromise: Like everything in marriage, your wedding is a shared vision. Talk about why each item is important to you and compromise until you get to a list of no more than 1-3 priorities.
Congratulations! Your wedding foundation is solid!
There is lots more to come in this series! Including how you use these newly established priorities in your planning! These values are FOUNDATIONAL to your wedding planning.
A note of encouragement for when the going gets rough.
When you get overwhelmed and there’s just too many decisions to make, and lots of opinions coming your way, remember these things:
- Truly, only a very few important things need to happen to make this day everything you want it to be. The rest else is just extra and you can let it go if need be.
- Ask Yourself: Is what’s stressing me out right now on my list of priorities? If not, consider giving yourself permission to let it go.
I’d love to hear from you if this series is having an impact on your planning process! Leave a comment or a question below!