Hey Abby: We’re making a seating chart for our wedding and we have awkward groupings at our tables. Any advice for assigning seats without making anyone feel left out?
One of the best compliments I received from our wedding was that our family and friends felt like they had great conversations over dinner and were able to meet new people they had a lot in common with. Carefully selecting the seating arrangements at your wedding can foster new bonds and relationships between the people in your life, allow your guests to have a fun and lively dinner together, and kick off a GREAT party.
Here’s my three-step formula for making the perfect seating chart:
Start with a basic breakdown of groups of people in your lives.
This usually looks something like this:
Family Friends of Family #1
Family Friends of Family #2
Individual Friends: Friends that are not close to both the bride(s) and/or groom(s). For example: childhood friends, college roommates, coworkers, etc.
Mutual Friends: Friends you’ve made since you started dating or friends that you both regularly spend time with.
Other: Anyone who doesn’t fit into the above categories.
Layout a basic seating chart based on these groups. Don’t worry at this point if you have gaps at tables, or some people that don’t fit in quite yet. But make sure that you have a system to not lose track of people as you place them.
Here's what I recommend for tracking systems: If you’re a list-maker by nature, I recommend an excel spreadsheet that you highlight as you place people. If you’re a doodler by nature, I recommend individual post-it notes with guests names written on them to lay out and see visually.
Click below to get my secret formula for the perfect table dynamic!