Hey Abby: What are Wedding Personal Flowers? We've noticed our floral proposals are broken down in sections and this one is the most confusing. Who should be included in this group?
Great question! Wedding Personal Flowers are the bouquets and floral accessories that people will carry or wear on your wedding day. These are an important element of your day because they are included in everything from your getting ready and wedding party photos to your ceremony, and in many cases even your reception. My cardinal rule when planning the design element of your wedding is this: focus your resources ($$$) in the areas you'll look back on after the wedding. The fact that these flowers are included in so many of your photos from your day is why it's important to not treat them as an after thought.
Here's a breakdown of what can be included in Wedding Personal Flowers and my best tips on how to plan for them well:
Your Bouquet |
There is nothing that can quite compare to the feeling of holding your bouquet on your wedding day. The most common statement I hear when I place that bouquet in your hands for the first time is, "This makes it feel REAL." In my opinion your bouquet should be the centerpiece of all of your personal flowers and one area of your floral I would never recommend cutting back on. You will be holding your bouquet in the majority of your photos and I hope it's the piece of all your florals that you love the most.
Ladies | Wedding Party, Mothers, Grandmothers + Other Important Women
Wedding Party | Bouquets for the ladies in your wedding party serve two primary purposes. First, they add a special touch to accent YOUR bouquet in the photos. Secondly, they serve as something for the ladies's to hold as they're walking down the aisle. Typically smaller than your bouquet, these can either be a very similar design to yours or a coordinating but totally different look. The number of ladies in your wedding party will be one of the biggest factors in overall expense for your personal flowers. The size and type of bouquets also determines the cost. Greenery and textural accents can look just as beautiful in the right setting as a full bouquets of flowers.
A note on reusing bouquets | If you would like to reuse your bouquets at the reception my best advice is to use them in places that you’re considering a little 'extra floral flare.' This might be your welcome table, dessert station, or as bar accents. They will add some floral beauty to these otherwise blank spaces without pressure to serve a purpose they're not meant for. Bouquets are not designed to be centerpieces. If you're getting married in very warm or cold months, remember that the bouquets will be without a water source for the majority of the day as you're taking photos. They're designed to look their best for this period of time.
Other Ladies | Moms and Grandmothers LOVE getting their own special flowers. In my experience, this is a nice way to easily invest in them feeling included and special on your wedding day. Two of my favorite options for special women in your family are floral bracelets and small handheld bouquets.
Floral Bracelets | An update on the traditional wrist corsage, floral bracelets in gold or silver metal cuffs are a beautiful piece of floral art for them to wear all day long and are more comfortable and stable than the old-school elastic bands we all wore to senior prom.
Small Handheld Bouquets | These are my current personal favorite! Also referred to as Nosegays, I love these sweet and simple handheld bouquets for Mothers and Grandmothers because it gives them something to hold while walking down the aisle.
Gentlemen | Groom, Wedding Party, Father's, Grandfather's, Ring Bearers + Other Important Men
Boutonnières add a nice touch to the gentlemen's lapel and can help carry through your color palette or add an organic feel with textural elements and ribbons. If you need a place to cut back on your personal flowers, this is it. Include a bout for a groom at minimum and consider skipping the rest, or adding one for fathers and grandfather and skipping the groomsmen.
Other Personal Flowers + Fun Details and Accessories!
Ushers | If you have ushers who are not easily identifiable as a member of the wedding party (ie. wearing the same attire), then adding a personal flowers for them in the form of either a boutonnière or a floral bracelet can be a nice way to identify them to guests when the arrive at your ceremony.
Officiant | Another very common question is: should our Officiant get any flowers? If your officiant is a religious member of the clergy, I would not recommend planning a personal flower. If your officiant is a friend or family member, then I think a personal flower is a lovely touch. It accents what they're wearing and highlights them as an important participant in the day. Not to mention, it makes them feel special and included.
Flower Crowns + Hair Accessories | Flower crowns and hair accessories are one of my favorite details to include because they add a touch of flowers that highlight your face throughout your reception and dancing, long after you may have set your bouquet down for the day. They also add a beautiful garden-style element, which is also a personal favorite.
Flower Girl Accents | Everything is more adorable in miniature form and that very much includes little girls with flowers! Depending on the age of your Flower Girls and the restrictions of your venue, they may or may not be able to toss actual petals. In the event they cannot toss petals, floral wands and floral crowns are a beautiful way to highlight their trip down the aisle. I recommend crowns when they are small enough they will need to hold hands to walk down the aisle. Floral wands work best when they're a bit older (5 years - 8 years), which is usually also the age they really love the idea of holding a pretty wand.
Toss Bouquet | A separate and much smaller and more simple bouquet that has traditional been 'tossed' into a crowd of waiting ladies on the dance floor. In my opinion, skip this piece and the entire tradition all together.
Flower Dogs | The world needs more Flower Dogs and they should be properly accented with floral collars and leashes! Just putting it out there for the Universe to bring them back to me!
Representing a good chunk of your floral budget and a piece that you'll look back on in photos over and over again, selecting person flowers that you love for yourself and your wedding party can take a little bit of thought and planning with your designer, but will be time and money WELL spent when you look back through the memories captured of your day!